I was born late September 1964 in Evesham Hospital. I believe we spent 10 days in hospital (normal then) and I know my Mum stayed in a Mother and Baby Home in Malvern - possibly Barsham house. Would she have gone to the home before having me or only after having given birth? She worked for Austin Motor Company so would she have physically continued to work? My Mum was an only child and her parents offered to help support us if she decided that she wanted to keep me. Mum was just 20 when she had me but did keep me. She and my Birth Father had already split up when she discovered she was pregnant. He did pay minimal maintenance for me until I was adopted by Mum 's husband (my Dad) when I was 16. They met when I was 5 and married when I was 7. I met my birth Father when I was in my 40's but he died aged 71. I also found out 2 of my Godparents were great friends with him. My Auntie had kept photos of when they were younger should I ever want to see them, They I once watched a program on single Mothers in Mother and Baby homes. They were treated like 2nd class citizens and naughty girls that as a female myself I found heart breaking. I have never really discussed any of this with Mum and now aged 76 she has vascular dementia and Alzeimers so will never be able to find out anything more. How long did the women tend to stay in the homes? My Mum did say they were marched to Church on Sundays to pray for forgiveness. Would love to hear more about what life was like for these poor Mum's. I went to school with many girls who were adopted
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Hi Kerry,
I was at Barsham House briefly in the summer of 1970 so a few years later than your mother.
Most of the young women stayed for a good while, as tansley92 says, probably from when they started to ’show’ until they gave birth...it was all about being hidden away.
Apart from cooking we did all the housework and I recall it being done before breakfast. It was hard work and difficult when you’re pregnant and all on top of my parents paying a lot of money for me to be there that they couldn’t afford.
I was so incensed at the way we were treated that I eventually gave the horrible manager a piece of my mind and I went back to my parents home after a week.
I had been at art college and tasted freedom so I wasn’t as meek and mild about being made to feel ashamed in the way that was expected of me. I wasn’t prepared to be subjected to the Dickensian way of life there. Malvern was a very snobby disapproving place to be as a young pregnant woman and the way Barsham House was run was typical of the class ridden attitudes of institutions at that time.
I ended up giving birth to my son at Bromsgrove hospital.
I’m happy to answer any questions if I can.
Jean